Received a very sad news...A good friend's husband passed away suddenly this morning due to heart attack.
I heavy-heartedly texted T about this, telling him I am going to pay respect in the evening. T is working outstation this week. Eventhough I couldn't see his expression, but I can tell that he was saddened by the unexpected news.
T: If one day I am not around, I will miss you and Cedric kia...
Me: If you are not here anymore, you won't be able to feel anything lah
T: I think can still feel loh...unable to witness Cedric's wedding...to have grandson granddaughter...
Me: The one who passes on first will be less sad...The ones that are still alive will be sad for the whole life
I paused for a while, then decided.
Me: Dear, if I pass away first, you go marry another nice lady, then you will be less sad, can move on to a new life.
But (the lady) must sayang my Cedric lah, if Cedric doesn't like can not hah
T: I don't want to re-marry. (I want to be) Single and go travel...Bring your photo along...Assume you with me kai kai...
Very touched...I can almost imagine a silly lonely man sitting alone at a farm in New Zealand holding my photo...
Me: (You) better re-marry. Otherwise Cedric big time he will have his own life, sure you gu ling ling (lonely), a kesian (pitiful) old man...
T: He comes back once a week to yam cha (have tea) and dinner with me OK already. I get a golden dog or husky accompany me
Me: We should enjoy our life everyday right dear? We never know for sure what will happen tomorrow...
T: That's why I really look forward to our new house. You don't worry about money, take it easy, we will work it out together. Relax lah baby!
Me: After we moved in, three of us should all jump into the bathtub together as the opening ceremony! I'll go pluck some flower petals, put some aroma oil
T: I want to scrub and mask using the New Zealand Rotorua stuff that we bought
Me: You laki banyak, can rub out huge black stuff like 50 cents
T: ~~~~~~~
I think life is as simple as ABC...to be happy...to make others happy...and to realize how lucky we are to still be able to open our eyes today, to see the people we love, to feel, to touch, and to just be here.
T might not be the richest, most handsome, most patient, most caring, most hardworking, most etc etc man, but he is the man that I have decided to spend my whole life with, be it 5 years, 10 years, 20 years or 50 years. And he is the one and only that allows me to be silly, to be sad, to be angry, and to be myself. He is the one who makes me laugh and constantly reminds me to "Relax lah baby"...
Great to have you and Cedric boy in my life dear...!
P/S: I really don't mind if you remarry after I am gone. As long as it makes you happy, and it is good for our boy. ~~Cheers~~
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| One of the very few family photos we have |
